
I had a discussion last week about prostitution, which brought up the question, what percentage of men have slept with a prostitute? I don't know anyone who has slept with a prostitute, but my circle of friends may not be a microcosm of the world, so I asked other people, the more liberal people I know who wouldn't take being asked this question out-of-the-blue strange. These are some of the answers I got to the questions, do you know anyone who has slept with a prostitute, and what percentage of men do you think have slept with a prostitute:
"I know a couple of older, gross men, I would guess 10%."
"You know how men are, a whole bunch of them. No one has ever told me they have, but they probably wouldn't tell me."
"I don't know anyone. (After some thought) No wait, I do. Two military guys. Maybe 10-25% overall?"
"In my circle of friends, who are very open, I know a few. I bet it's 70% over a lifetime."
"A whole lot, in fact, I would be a prostitute if I had the right build. There is a huge market for men who sleep with men and men who sleep with transvestites in Albuquerque."
"Maybe 10 or 20%? No one I know."
"No one I know, oh I do know one guy in the army, maybe 15%?"
"I don't know anyone. No idea. Interesting question."
"No one I know has, but I did know a friend of a past girlfriend who worked at a massage parlor. She was kind of trashy, but then so was my girlfriend."
"Lots of military men, and people stranded in the Nevada desert over the summer."
Most people didn't know anyone personally. The people who guessed high fell into two categories: those who think poorly of men and those who think themselves worldly. People think men in the military and truckers are the most likely to pay for sex. But this was a small sample size, so I searched more broadly for the answer, not only on google, but also on Pubmed and the Kinsey site. I found that in the US in 1994, ~16% of men said they had slept with a prostitute in their lifetime. Worldwide, the numbers vary from 7-39%, with Spain holding the highest percent. This number has decreased from Kinsey's time, likely because many more people have premarital and casual sex, reducing the demand for paid sex. I could not find values on specific populations.
I also found that contrary to the open-minded liberatarian view, while prostitution in a vacuum may be defensible, the reality is rather grim, with even prostitutes in legal brothels in Nevada being dissatisfied at having to fork over much of their profit to the house, having to defend themselves if they want to refuse a client, and having to pay high prices on-site for their weekly health exams. Prostitution leads to human trafficking and exploits people who have very often been abused in the past. The majority of prostitutes are raped or beaten at least yearly while working. Most prostitutes start working at the age of 14 or 15. So, I am anti-prostitution, and also, I think the US laws should change to match Sweden's, where it is legal to sell sex, but illegal to buy sex, which means that the only people who can be arrested or fined are the people creating the demand, the "Johns".
In our era of more open and casual sex, who would go to a prostitute? Men who want to get whatever they want with no complications. Who would want to sleep with someone that doesn't want to sleep with them, but is doing it for money? It seems to me that prostitution, whatever happens in The Secret Diary of a Call Girl on Showtime, intrinsically sets up a scenario of disrespect. Remember the movie Pretty Woman? Really, how did that movie get funded? The scene from Leaving Las Vegas between Elizabeth Shue and the assholes in high school is closer to the truth. While prostitution may ideally be a transaction between two consenting adults, it most often is not. And places where prostitution is legal still have lots of illegal prostitution underground. The whole enterprise contributes to the horrors of human trafficking. The UN has an organization against human trafficking that accepts donations, should you feel inspired to help: http://www.ungift.org.
Rather than carefully citing my article, I will list some interesting articles:
Scientific American: Why Do Men Buy Sex?
Stories From the Sex Trade, on PBS
A newspaper article from New Zealand, which legalized prostitution in 2003.